Dear Horst,
Regret this delayed response but I was waiting for the
digitization of some color slides of our days in Lawrence
You can now see these at :
1) BUILDINGS
2) CAMPANILLE
3) FRIENDS
4) INDIA EVENING
5) INTERNATIONAL EVENING
6) KU Rally
7) OZARKS
8) SELF
Check out the last photo in “ International Evening “ and the 3rd
/ 4th photo of “ India Evening “
Is that Carolyn ?
While happy with your contribution to the society ( through your
teachings at various universities ) , I felt very sad at what happened in your
personal life . That is what makes me believe in destiny !
Do let me know what happened in China . May be sharing with me
can lighten your burdened soul
Like Christa , my younger grand-daughter Aneree Parekh , is also
a practicing Psychotherapist here in Mumbai ( for past 2 years ) and also does
some research with a group called Monk Prayogshala
My elder son Vishesh ( Aneree’s father ) would be in Italy (
Como ) over the coming Monday / Tuesday and then again visit London from 14 Oct
– 20 Oct ( with his wife, Niyati ) , to visit his elder daughter Anokhee (
Lecturer in English at York )
Regards,
hemen
From: Horst Helle
[mailto:horsthelle@hotmail.com]
Sent: Monday, September 17, 2018 11:34 PM
To: Hemen Parekh
Subject: Re: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Sent: Monday, September 17, 2018 11:34 PM
To: Hemen Parekh
Subject: Re: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Dear Hemen:
It is indeed
remarkable, that you and I should be in contact now, and I want to thank you
again for having made that possible. You have found the autobiographical
chapter which I once wrote for a book about careers of sociologists. I did that
at the end of a guest stay in Fulton, Missouri, about the same distance to the
East of Kansas City as we were to the West of that town, when we were students
in Lawrence. You also noticed there that Carolyn has passed away in 1999. She
became the victim of brain cancer, and an operation postponed her death, but
could not avert it. I noticed with great interest in your admirable biography
that there are some parallels, for instance your son Vishesh and my son Paul
were both born in 1960. But while your private life follows the path of
respectability, mine has taken on unusual characteristics as I will try to
explain.
Having
received my M.B.A. from KU I returned to my alma mater, the University of
Hamburg, to find that the business professors there were not interested in topics
of human relations. That caused me to leave the business school and become a
student of sociology instead. Carolyn received a Fulbright scholarship to study
voice at the Music Academy of Cologne, Germany, and so we could stay in
contact, at least for weekend get-togethers. In 1959 I received my PhD and
Carolyn and I got married. Carolyn had trained to be an opera singer but found
that to make a career in that profession it was frequently expected of the
young female singer to be generous with erotic services toward decision makers
at the theater. That make her so furious, that she gave up opera singing
entirely and retrained to church music (quite different technique, as you may
know). She sang in churches in Hamburg, and our children were born 1960, 1962,
1964, and 1967. In the meantime, I had become a management trainee with
Unilever, working in marketing and advertising, but getting disillusioned about
the business world. So, in 1961 I went back to the university as an assistant
teacher. In 1969 I got the required post-doctorate degree and was soon invited
to a position of professor at the Aachen Institute of Technology. Leaving
Hamburg and moving to Aachen was a great sacrifice for Carolyn to make. In 1971
the University of Vienna offered me another full professorship along with
Austrian citizenship. The children had hardly gotten settled, and Carolyn had
barely established new music contacts, when my career demanded another move,
even to leave Germany. This time Carolyn could not bring herself to follow me.
We discussed it as good friends, understanding each other, but got divorced!
Hardly had I started working in Vienna (and living there alone, visiting my
family over weekends across 1000km) when the University of Munich invited me to
come there in 1973. It seems that a very successful career was overshadowed
with almost total failure of my private life.
From 1973 to
2002 I was professor of sociology at Munich University. In 1974 I re-married,
Carolyn moved to Munich with the children, and my second wife, a young German
lady, established very amazing relationships with the children from my first
marriage. In addition, she (her name is Eva) and I also have four children,
born in 1975, 1978, 1981, and 1988. With Carolyn I had three sons and one
daughter, with Eva I had one son and three daughters. Paul is a hospital
physician in Stuttgart, Marie teaches in the Music Academy of Vienna, Mark
teaches clinical psychology at a college in East Germany, Erik died in 2011.
And Eva’s children: Vera is married to the son of a physician from India,
Randhir Dindoyal, and lives in the USA to oversee the teaching of German in
that country and in Mexico for the German government in Berlin, Heinz lives in
Zurich, Switzerland, and has become a fiction writer, producing novels, Christa
is a psychotherapist here in Munich, and Anna writes technical texts for a
company.
While these
periods of my life represent no doubt results for which we all must be very
grateful, they included the death of Carolyn in 1999 and the death of Erik in
2011. They also led to more career opportunities for me in mainland China
(starting in 1996) again combined with more private disaster. I will close for
now, because it is an imposition upon you to ask you to read all this. But in
the future, we can go into more details if you want to do that. I look forward
to reading your poems! Thank you for pointing them out to me.
Best wishes,
Horst
From: Horst Helle <horsthelle@hotmail.com>
Sent: Monday, September 17, 2018 11:54 AM
To: Hemen Parekh
Subject: Re: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Sent: Monday, September 17, 2018 11:54 AM
To: Hemen Parekh
Subject: Re: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Dear
Hemen:
I
am very grateful for your detailed reply. I shall soon write back to you.
Best
wishes,
Horst
From: Hemen Parekh <hcp@recruitguru.com>
Sent: Saturday, September 15, 2018 6:29 AM
To: Horst Helle
Subject: RE: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Sent: Saturday, September 15, 2018 6:29 AM
To: Horst Helle
Subject: RE: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Dear Horst,
I don’t know what prompted me to search for you on internet but
I am glad I did
Thanks for those photos . Somewhere in my drawers , I think I
have a copy of the one with both of us ( with me , in cap ) – but I could not
find
But , among some 50 odd color slides ( 35 mm ) of our stay at KU
, I have found 3 / 4 , which I will scan / digitize , next week and email to
you . I think , a couple of those show Carolyn on stage , during “ India
Evening “ function but I could be wrong
I have yet to go through your biography pages ( done 3 so far )
but somewhere there you refer to “ Carolyn [ 1935 – 1999 ] . That
depressed me no end !
After I returned from KU , I worked for 1 year in a small
engineering factory and , in 1959 joined “ Larsen and Toubro Ltd “ ( still the
largest Engineering firm of India ) . I rose to be a General Manager of ( at
that time ) , its biggest factory ( in Mumbai ) , employing 7,500 persons .
Last 3 years of my job ( 1987-90 ) , I served as General Manager ( Planning )
and General Manager ( Exports ), before retiring in April 1990
After retirement , I set up a Headhunting ( Senior Level
recruitment ) firm , under the name,
- along
with my younger son , Nirmit ( 1966 born ) , who now manages it independently
for past 10 years
My elder son , Vishesh ( 1960 born ) has a business of marketing
Pharma Machineries ( from Italy ) and regularly visits Hannover Fair ( ? )
Vishesh and his wife Niyati stay with us ( or rather, me and my
wife Bharati – now 81 – stay with them )
Nirmit and his wife Pooja ( a Electronics engineer ) stay a few
km away , close to 3P office . They have no issues
Vishesh / Niyati have two daughters
Elder one , Anokhee , has post-graduate degrees in English
Literature and Education from Sheffield and York ( UK ) . She married David
Lingwood ( her college friend ) in 2011 and is settled in York with David ( who
gave up his career in Police Dept / completed his MBA and about to take up
another job
Anokhee is teaching “ English Language “ to high school students
at Ethelburga University
They have a 3.5 year old daughter , named Maia . They spent 5
weeks with us in July / aug
Vishesh’s younger daughter , Aneere , did her M S ( Psychology )
from York and is now with us in Mumbai
She has her own private practice as a “ Consulting Psychologist
“ , besides doing some research with a group
I had a bypass surgery in 2005 but keeping reasonably active /
busy ( only from home ) by blogging on my site [ www.hemenparekh.in
] . Keeps me busy for 3 / 4 hours
My wife Bharati is also active, despite problems with her spine
/ knee problems
We have a garden adjoining our residence and go for a walk every
morning
I am not in touch with anyone else from KU
More after I hear from you
Regards,
Hemen
PS :
You can read some of my poems at :
From: Horst Helle
[mailto:horsthelle@hotmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, September 12, 2018 10:07 PM
To: hcp@RecruitGuru.com
Subject: Re: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Sent: Wednesday, September 12, 2018 10:07 PM
To: hcp@RecruitGuru.com
Subject: Re: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Dear Hemen:
Thanks and
apologies come first: Thanks for your kindness to find me in the vastness of
the internet and for writing after so many decades. Apologies for taking so
long to respond. You are my one and only roommate I ever had. I remember of
course that you were then a student of engineering at KU. I took courses in
Business Administration, because it seemed clear then, that I would become a businessman
like my father. But contrary to what my family and I expected, I spent only
three years working in industry, then returned to the university and became a
professor of sociology. At the bottom of this e-mail you find a link to a
summary of my life. A few minutes ago, I sent a copy of three pictures from
Lawrence: First the house in which we both lived, “as paying guests of Naomi”,
as you write. The picture has a date on the back: Sept. 13, 1956. Next a
portrait of you and me with a Christmas tree in the background. It too is
dated: Dec. 18, 1956. Last – more as a joke – a picture of the “European”
soccer team of KU at the time in which I played, dated Oct. 21, 1956. KU had
three soccer teams: Asia, Europe, and Latin America (if I remember correctly).
It shows how very international the campus was at the time of our stay there.
If you too
have photos from our stay in Lawrence, please let me have copies.
I look forward
to more correspondence with you.
Best wishes to
you and yours,
Horst
From: Horst Helle <horsthelle@hotmail.com>
Sent: Wednesday, September 12, 2018 4:15 PM
To: hcp@RecruitGuru.com
Subject: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
Sent: Wednesday, September 12, 2018 4:15 PM
To: hcp@RecruitGuru.com
Subject: Since it is late in India, only a picture for now
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